The Depth Of Jealousy And The Deadly Attack. Vol. 3

<sup>Authored by Pastor Jefferson O Imgbi 
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8</sup>Cain talked with Abel his brother: and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother, and slew him. Genesis 4

  

The Depth Of Jealousy And The Deadly Attack. Vol. 3

Jealousy is an emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, such as a relationship, friendship, or love. In Cain’s case, he felt he lost his position as the first since his offering was not accepted.

   

You may get jealous in any of the following situations:

•when someone flirts with your girl, your boy, your husband or your wife

•when someone achieves something you’ve been wanting but haven’t done so yet

•when someone you hate succeeds

•when someone manages to get something and you don’t think they deserve to have it

 

These are all situations that can lead to that destructive path of jealousy. Today we are going to look at some of the causes of jealousy. This will enable you to deal and handle your situation with a heart that is release towards loving an amazing God. God is delivering this tip today for your liberation and total deliverance. This means that you are not created by accident. You were well thought of and planned before creation. In the same light, I have to say that you did not come across reading this today by accident but it was, predestined to. The answer you have search for all these years is right here waiting for you.

  

If you think because of the way he talked to her you got jealous; or because of the way she smiled at him you got jealous, you are wrong. Jealousy, like most other emotions, is rooted internally, so a big part of the problem lies within you not as an extension of external conditions or circumstances. The following are possible root causes of jealousy:

  

Lack of self-confidence: The main cause behind feeling jealous is you doubting your abilities or skills; if you are one hundred percent sure of yourself, you will never suffer any jealousy feelings or even if you do, they would be, brought down to a minimum.

  

Self-confidence is not a feeling of superiority, but of independence. Self-confidence knows that we have the capacity to do something good and firmly decide not to give up. Lack of self-confidence is a negative emotion or delusion, as it exaggerates one’s limitations in capacity, quality and potential for growth. Lack of self-confidence can be, made up of several different aspects like guilt, anger turned inward, unrealistic expectations of perfection, false sense of humility, fear of change or making mistakes, depression etc.

  

People with genuinely low self-esteem, a poor self-image and low confidence, have been insensitively lumped together with bullies, narcissists, criminals and child abusers. This is not really the case. Popular assumption was that people did bad things to other people because they themselves have low self-esteem. Nevertheless, if you have ever asked yourself:  “Do I have low self-esteem” then I urge you to fear not. All the evidence points to the conclusion that low self esteem is a distinct condition, so if you do have self esteem you don’t have to feel that you are in the same group as bullies or abusers.

  

Research has found that people with genuine low self-esteem tend to treat themselves badly not other people. Stopping people being bullies by trying to lift their self-esteem may be like trying to get an obese person to lose weight by feeding them with lots of cake.  The truth here is the fact that jealousy can result to the presence of low self-esteem, which is also the lack of confidence. How do I deal with this? 

  

I need to summarize this. You need to recognize your insecurities. What does that voice in the back of your mind say? What makes you ashamed of yourself? This could be anything from acne, to regrets, or friends at school. Whatever is making you feel unworthy, ashamed or inferior, identify it, give it a name, and write it down! You can also tear up these written pieces to eliminate negativity and start feeling positive on those points. Acknowledgement is a key word on your way to self-discovery.

  

Even the most confident people have insecurities. Just tell yourself that you are awesome. “I am awesome and nobody else matters...” At some point in any of our lives, we may feel we lack something. That is reality. Learn that life is full of bumps down the road. Confident people do overcome their feelings of insecurities and this is what you need to do. You need to be an overcomer. 

  

Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you have declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be, victimized.

“Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy -- in fact, they are almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other. Both at once can produce unbearable turmoil...”

Robert Heinlein (American science-fiction writer,1907-1988)

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